18 May Courses You Want #2: Build Better Boundaries
Posted at 12:59h in Blog, Communication Skills, conflict management, Emotional Intelligence, Oral Communication Skills 0 CommentsDisagreements, misunderstanding, and resentment can send any relationship off track – and consequences can be annoying or disastrous. Much can be avoided by observing boundaries. What?! The term ‘Boundaries’ can be off-putting, as it suggests rules and barbed wire fences, but we have them and attend to them all the time. Do you open someone else’s desk to look for a stapler? Do you look at someone else’s email to check a meeting time? Do you jump into an argument between others? Or do you want someone telling you how to manage your teen-ager – or your brother reviewing your recent spending choices? Or a team member correcting your report? Boundaries. The reasons boundaries cause trouble include:
- We don’t recognize what is ‘ours’
- We don’t know how to set them
- We aren’t sure if we should or can say what is okay with us or not
- We fear sounding bossy or uncooperative or unfriendly.